Seerah
The Prophet at home
His character in daily life
3 min, Intro
Beyond the battles and the treaties, the people closest to the Prophet remembered small things. How he treated a servant boy. How he treated his family, and children. Muslims study these details as closely as his teaching.
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The thread
The Qur'an told the Prophet he was of a great character. 'A'ishah later said his character was the Qur'an. This lesson follows that claim into the small things the people closest to him remembered. How he was at home. With a servant boy. With children.
"A great character"
The Qur'an comes first. It addresses the Prophet ﷺ directly: indeed, you are of a great moral character.
After his death, someone asked 'A'ishah to describe his character. She answered with a question: do you not read the Qur'an? His character was the Qur'an.
She meant that he lived what it taught.
وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلَىٰ خُلُقٍ عَظِيمࣲ ٤
4 Indeed, you are of a great moral character.
'A'ishah's answer: the Prophet lived what the Qur'an taught.
At home
Someone asked 'A'ishah what the Prophet did at home. Her answer: he was in the service of his family, and when the time for prayer came, he went out to the prayer.
Other reports fill in the picture. He mended his own clothes. He repaired his sandals. He milked his goat.
He was the leader of a growing state, and he still did his share at home.
He used to be in the service of his family, and when the time for prayer came, he would go out to the prayer.
Sahih al-Bukhari 676 Sahih In Sahih al-Bukhari
The leader of a state still did his share at home.
With servants and children
Anas ibn Malik was given to the Prophet as a servant boy.
Years later he said: I served him for ten years, and he never once said "uff" to me, nor asked "why did you do that?" about something I did, nor "why didn't you?" about something I left.
Then there were children. He kissed his grandson al-Hasan in front of a chief. The chief remarked that he had ten children and had never kissed one.
The Prophet answered: whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.
I served the Prophet for ten years, and he never said to me 'uff', nor 'why did you do that?' or 'why did you not do that?'
Sahih al-Bukhari 6038, Sahih Muslim 2309 Sahih In Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim
Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5997, Sahih Muslim 2318 Sahih In Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim
To a chief who never kissed his children: whoever does not show mercy is not shown mercy.